Hey, you, slow down. It’s important to take a step back sometimes. Take the scenic route.
Think. Feel. Embrace.
Do you remember cameras that needed actual batteries? AA or AAA.
If they died, you were fucked.
Then they made “rechargeable” AA and AAA batteries. You had a buy an adaptor that plugged into the wall and put the batteries in the adaptor to charge. Those didn’t last. Or did they? I have no idea.
Now cameras and phones have chargers you connect to them or the battery. We even have solar rechargeable cameras. Wireless charging. Portable chargers.
Cameras are important. Of course, I have one on me at all times on my cell phone as do most people in today’s society. (I’m an Android girl!)
We use them to capture the most valuable moments in our lives. Engraving them into our history and capturing as much as we can in our portable memory pockets.. So that we may relive them, not forget irreplaceable moments in our short time in existence.
One of my favorite things to do is scroll back through my camera roll, Instagram or saved Snapchats.
Whether it be years ago, when I was my thinnest yet unhappiest in my relationship, or one year ago, when I was single and learning to find myself through therapy and self-love/self-growth.
I see pictures and videos saved from times that caused me to laugh until I cried, times that actually made me sad, ugly cry and ones from priceless gatherings with friends and family….
Like that night that my friend *jokingly* slapped my other friend in the face to “wake him up” so we could go out in the city (makes me laugh, to this day!); that day that we spent all day on the patio sipping mimosas without a care in the world; that time when my family and I all wore matching halloween t-shirts (it was adorable); when my friend spilled wine on my leg and he didn’t want to waste it, so he licked it up; when my co-worker and friend gave me dating advice … “Let him suffer!”; and one of my favorites… When my best friend and I raved about how thankful we are for WATERPROOF STILA<3
And… even pictures and videos with my ex. Yup. Mierda.
Let’s face it, over four years of being involved with someone, you accumulate a lot of photos! While I have not deleted all evidence yet, the feelings I get when I see those photos certainly remind me how far I have come, how much I have grown and even how I miss him. (Hey, it was FOUR YEARS!) I cannot replace that feeling… And I am not ashamed of it. It will always be a part of me, no matter what. Always.
I digress. (Sorry, not sorry).
Those moments I listed above, and countless more, are ones I do not want to forget. For the rest of my life, I will look back and see them and relive those funny, happy, or even sad memories. We do tend to forget the little happy moments of life, don’t we?
We tend to remember only the bad or negative things. I find that sad. What if we changed the narrative and reinforced the good? Find that good.
Cherish it always.
Now, imagine if your camera battery (or phone) had DIED. No charger. UGH!!! I can hear your frustration through the internet. Your modern day diary is unavailable and you can no longer record your memories. (or check Snapchat, Facebook, Twitter, Reddit, Youtube, Instagram….etc)..
Okay, okay. Enough torture.
My point is, as important as it is in today’s society to keep our devices charged, so we don’t miss the opportunity to capture a moment, reply to a message, call a loved one, keep up with the latest news…
It is EQUALLY if not MORE IMPORTANT to keep yourself mentally charged.
As easy as it is to just phase through life like a zombie, taking care of mundane tasks, making cruise control choices, working, sleeping, eating, talking, scrolling on social media… Waking up months from now with no recollection of where you came from, how you got there, or what happened along the way..
YOU MUST RECHARGE YOURSELF.
I had a conversation tonight about how in life, happiness does not just simply exist. Each individual (that is capable), is in charge of their happiness. It must be fought for.
Envision it. Say it. CREAT IT. Make it a reality. Do not cruise control through life.
If you do not take care of yourself, show yourself self-love, learn self-growth, positivity, FORGIVE those who have wronged you, let go of bad situations and toxic people and toxic environments, or take steps towards bettering yourself or your emotional/mental well being… then…
I’m afraid your battery WILL BE DEAD.
You will phase through life unaware, unattached, unhappy and unavailable. Yikes.
Take time for you. Spoil yourself. Embrace the moment. Feel the emotions. Cry. Feel and redirect the negativity that is latent in all of us as humans towards positivity and goodness.
Now, don’t ignore the negativity and bad feelings.. Instead of running from things, solve them and embrace them. Work for what you love and what you want. Be in sync with your emotions. FEEL THEM.
It is worth, I promise.
Do not let fear, anger, sadness, or guilt halt your self-growth or make you think you do not deserve happiness and love.
Read up on self-love, self-help, self-growth.. Listen to audiobooks.. Watch youtube videos.. Just google it. You have resources! Starting with me.
Call out that person that hurt you and forgive them, try something you didn’t think you’d be able to do, take that bubble bath, get to the gym or be active, take care of your body, create the best version of you, meditate, write a letter to someone (yes, snail mail!), call your friend you haven’t spoken to in a while, go for a walk outside, make amends to something that is troubling you, start that new hobby you’ve been wanting to try, binge watch that Netflix series, eat that ice cream, create real, honest and lasting relationships, and most importantly….
Allow yourself to LOVE and to be LOVED.
Make time for yourself. You deserve it. Recharge. Be selfish. Find clarity.
I cannot say it ENOUGH!
Be good to yourself. I’m here.
Here’s a GIF of this guy. I’m obsessed. #TheFlash
And as for tunes…
Paramore – After Laughter (Basically the whole album). You’re welcome.